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Author :: Dr. Linda Miles  |
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| Article Title :: Reading Your Partners Mind |
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When Ann came to see me, she was in the process of counting how
many times in the past year her husband had turned on the
television when she wanted to talk to him--not that she had ever
told him she wanted to talk. She left him oblivious to her
upset, while her resentment built at his failure to magically
"know" what was on her mind.
When we are young it seems as if our caretakers magically know
when we need to eat and what they must do to take care of us.
Children have a family romance in which their parents are always
wise and good. This is extended to the whole world via the
culture of children's stories, in which wonderful things happen
to the good guys and the bad guys get their due. (read full article) |
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| Category :: Advice Articles |
Author :: Dr. Linda Miles |
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| Article Title :: Finding Mr. or Ms. Perfect |
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Children's limited experience of life makes them believe that
their parents are always good and that adults can always be
trusted. Carried over into adult life and love, this way of
thinking forms the psychology of the first summit--the first
period of our involvement with another when love is experienced
as rapturous. Our new partner seems faultless, good in every way.
Terri had felt unloved all her life. When she began a
relationship with a man who doted on her and always wanted to be
by her side, she thought she had found the "perfect man." But,
it didn't last. Gradually, she realized that Andrew was an
alcoholic who had no life of his own apart from the excitement
he found in starting (read full article) |
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| Category :: Advice Articles |
Author :: Dr. Linda Miles |
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| Article Title :: It is always about me, isn't it? |
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A characteristic of childhood thinking is the child's assumption
that whatever happens "is all about me." The tendency of
children to blame themselves for their parents' difficulties
causes them great pain, and if this kind of "it's all about me"
thinking persists into adulthood, it can do considerable harm to
their personal relationships. As adults, many people still
believe they are defective and that if people really knew them
they would be rejected.
Children under the age of ten have yet to develop a concept of
multi-causality. Consequently, they explain out-of-the-ordinary
phenomena as having occurred because they made them happen.
Young children do not see their overly critical paren (read full article) |
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| Category :: Advice Articles |
Author :: Dr. Linda Miles |
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| Article Title :: Relationship Heartbreaks - Part One of Two |
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The rapture of first love is a tremendously powerful experience
that affects us biologically, psychologically, and spiritually.
Robert Johnson writes of love in We, Understanding the
Psychology of Romantic Love, as an initiation into a state of
higher consciousness. It seems no less, but we receive this
initiation at such a young age that usually we are without the
life experiences that instruct us in the management of the
powerful force that love is.
In the 1960s, Dr. Jerry Stern gave a lecture on the poet William
Blake, explaining the importance of having a lived experience.
To represent the innocent phase, Blake wrote about little lambs
and the world of the child. In the experience phas (read full article) |
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| Category :: Advice Articles |
Author :: By Dr. Linda Miles |
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| Article Title :: Relationship Heartbreaks - Part Two of Two |
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The rapture phase of love gives each partner a feeling that is
buoyant, lively, and fulfilling. You project onto your partner
images of beauty, goodness, and love as if your partner were a
canvas waiting to be painted on. The energy of this
consciousness shines a bright light across the world,
obliterating all the differences in your characters, lifting you
and your partner to a higher state of being. You are atop the
summit, and you sparkle to one another like diamonds with many
facets of light.
This is as it should be. Robert Johnson observed that falling in
love is meant to be an initiation into a world much greater than
the individual: an introduction to the ideals of love, truth,
and (read full article) |
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Author :: Karen Marinelli |
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| Article Title :: Send Flowers, A How To Guide |
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It should be an easy, feel-good experience to send flowers. You
can order flowers for any number of occasions. Here are some
simple tips to ensure that you are satisfied with the results.
There are several pieces of information that you need to
communicate to your local florist. A good florist knows these
pieces of information and will ask the right questions. If you
do not have a good local florist, you may need to take matters
into your own hands and order flowers online. Either way, if at
any point during the ordering process you don't feel you're
getting through, don't be afraid to ask for what you want. If
you still don't feel comfortable, politely cancel the order and
try again elsewh (read full article) |
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| Category :: Advice Articles |
Author :: Stephen Hill |
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| Article Title :: Types of help for a stammer |
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There are many types of stammer therapy including stammer cure
courses or traditional speech therapy. I have overcome a stammer
and in this article I describe what it is like to be fluent for
me.
I am now able to order food and drink for example, without fear
of a stammer, speak on the telephone and am able to enjoy
socialising. I have become a more positive person, life is no
longer the struggle it once used to be. I appreciate my speech
compared with the average fluent person, who does not realise
how lucky they are. Some would even say that I talk too much,
but this is something I will never apologise for - when I had a
stammer I hardly spoke at all.
Six years ago I met my present girl (read full article) |
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| Category :: Advice Articles |
Author :: Stephen Hill |
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| Article Title :: How To Beat A Stammer |
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My name is Stephen Hill, I have overcome a stammer which had
affected my life for eighteen years. I now help as many other
people who stammer to achieve fluency as I can.
When I had a stammer, I would attend speech therapy, at which I
would be told to slow down or to take a deep breath before
talking. Other tips were to use costal breathing or to prolong
my words.
This did not seem to help me very much and after attending these
speech therapy lessons for eighteen years decided it probably
never would.
I firmly believed that my own stammer was very much a
physcological as well as a physical problem as at times I could
talk very well, like for example when I was talking to my
girlfriend or (read full article) |
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| Category :: Advice Articles |
Author :: Stephen Hill |
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| Article Title :: Helping someone who has a stammer |
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How many fluent people ever consider what life is like for
somebody with a stammer?
Going through life with a stammer is quite difficult, and at
times the stammerer would appreciate a little more compasion.
After overcoming a stammer myself, I asked some of my friends,
how they thought life was like, having a severe stammer. I had
quite a few different responses, some of which annoyed me.
Jim said:
"I always thought that you felt a bit sorry for yourself and you
made out that your stammer was some huge disasterous problem.
It's not like you couldn't talk at all, is it?
I also felt at times that you lacked courage, for example always
asking Tony to order your drinks for you."
Paul then (read full article) |
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| Category :: Advice Articles |
Author :: Stephen Hill |
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| Article Title :: The handicap of having a stammer |
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There are many types of disablity. I am somebody who believes
that to have a stammer is a form of disabilty.
I think most people would probably say no, however I disagree.
People who stammer have to struggle their way through life at
times. I am somebody who had a stammer for eighteen years. I am
going to now explain one of the situations that I found
difficult and how my mind or what I would call my demons would
be saying to me.
This is when trying to meet and approach people of the opposite
sex. Lets say I am in a bar and I see a woman/girl who catches
my eye. I think to myself, who don't you go and talk to her and
make a move etc? My demons are always talking to me, and are
basically s (read full article) |
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