How many articles have you read with titles like "Ten Steps to Developing Self Confidence"? Well I'm sure more than you can count. What does this say about this strategic approach to the issue of enhancing Self Confidence? Well I'll leave the answer to that question for you to sort out.
In this article I would like to propose a very different approach which requires no memory work on your part. Doesn't that feel like a relief? All it requires is an awareness of when you are being honest with yourself and a commitment to such personal honesty. Let me explain.
When we define what it means to be "confident" what are we really talking about? Well it basically means that you a) know what you desire and b) you are committed to manifesting that desire.
Now you might say well if I could do that I would already be confident and I wouldn't be wasting my time reading this article. In response I would say that it is that very negative mind set that robs you of your confidence.
You see the state of "feeling" confident is a reward that you receive from deep within yourself, one might say from deep within your inner wisdom, when you decide, through your freewill, to heed its desires for you. Some "think" this takes courage because within and without there appear to be so many obstacles (i.e. negative beliefs/emotions) to choosing such a road within one's self.
These obstacles include such things as issues of worthiness, self doubt, fear of being ostracized , the need for permission from others, guilt feelings, dread, fears of making a mistake and many other negative beliefs/emotions. These so called obstacles, if you let them wrestle your confidence and your life away from you by diverting you from following your deep inner wisdom.
Such obstacles are the result of much life conditioning due to emotional trauma that exists within you and which can be quickly and easily released.
They divert you from your deep core values (i.e. what you desire for yourself in your life) by seducing you into believing things that are essentially not true. For instance an example might go something like this:
1. My feelings of unworthiness keep me from being overly zealous, so that,
2. Others won't think badly of me, so that,
3. They will like, appreciate, approve of and possibly love me, so that,
4. I can feel accepted by others, so that,
5. I can feel happy, at peace, and like a good or worthy person.
In other words:
(A) The feelings of unworthiness are supposed to make me feel like a worthy person.
Does that sound true to you? Likely not because it is totally illogical. Yet, this is what you have been carrying in your unconscious mind if you have ever entertained feelings of unworthiness.
Is that what you want? If not, kindly admit that to yourself and then notice what happens to your confidence level.
Although this is a difficult concept to put across in article form, if you followed me even half the way you might have noticed some kind of internal emotional shift happened.
What many experience when I work with them directly in this way are some or all of the following: great increase in their sense of self confidence, a complete release of feelings of unworthiness (in this case), great resilience, an inner strength and solidity, a feeling of lightness and buoyancy, happiness, inner peace, a fearlessness, and a greater awareness of what it is that they truly desire for themselves.
In such a transformation what has happened is that they have, by releasing the negative feelings of unworthiness, realigned themselves with their deep inner wisdom, where they hold their core values, and are thus "rewarded" with the feeling state I just described. In such a place they are acutely aware of and strengthened in their ability to manifest what is right for them.
Another way of saying this is that they are more able to be honest with themselves. It is this personal honesty that breeds confidence. To put it another way just notice what happens to your self confidence when you lie to yourself or others. Doesn't it plummet?
Indeed one might say that when one begins to become "honest" with one's self that they start to feel so good that it almost becomes painful to diverge from their core values. Another way to say this is that their sensitivity to being out of alignment with their core values becomes uncomfortable and undesirable.
In other words, aligning yourself with your inner wisdom actually "supports" you in staying aligned there. Now how is that for help? You probably didn't even know that deep within you had such a staunch supporter did you?
Well if you would like to unleash it then kindly visit the web link below where I have a special message waiting for you.
Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.
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