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Author :: Nancy Buck  |
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| Article Title :: How Do I Handle This As A Peaceful Parent? V |
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| In both your lecture and book you emphasize the importance of making dreary tasks fun as well as negotiations with your children. Does everything need to be fun? Is everything supposed to turn into a negotiation? Can I ever just say "Do what I ask because I ask it of you?"The simple answer to your question is "YES." You do not need to turn every chore into fun and games. Yes, when you ask your child to follow a direction, negotiation does not need to follow this request. You certainly have the right to expect that your child will do as you ask when you ask simply because you have asked. From my perspective this is respectful, courteous behavior.Conversely, I expect th (read full article) |
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Author :: Nancy Buck |
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| Article Title :: Peaceful Parenting Success Story IV |
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| Peggy, mother of 16-year old Shauna and 11-year old Stephanie recently sent an e-mail sharing her success learned from Peaceful Parenting®.Last fall I heard your Peaceful Parenting® presentation sponsored by my daughter's middle school PTA. I asked you a question and wanted you to know how helpful your answer has been for my relationship with my eldest daughter Shauna and me.My complaint to you regarding Shauna’s recent behavior centered around her selfishness, her unkind words and deeds toward her sister and her apparent disrespect of her father and me. Your suggestions were not what I expected. Rather than the usual threats of grounding her or demands for better beh (read full article) |
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| Category :: Parenting Articles |
Author :: Nancy Buck |
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| Article Title :: To TRUST Is A Choice |
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| When your teenage son tells you that he is going to a friend's house to spend Saturday evening, how do you know he is where he tells you? When your daughter wakes up on a school day morning complaining of not feeling well, and you know she has a math test she has been worrying about, how do you know she is really sick? When your son tells you that he doesn't need to go to the bathroom before you are about to get into the car to run your household errands, can you trust his judgment? As parents, how do we know we can trust our children?The answer is we don't ever really know. We must make the choice to either trust our children or not. I know these are not necessarily comfortin (read full article) |
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| Category :: Parenting Articles |
Author :: Jeff Herring |
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| Article Title :: 6 Point Plan for Managing Teenagers |
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| “Trying to control a teenager is like trying to put pants on a gorilla." - Jeff HerringQ: We are having increasing difficulty dealing with curfews in our home. Our teenagers keep wanting to stay out later and later and it’s hard for us to trust them. What can we do?A: Isn’t it amazing how kids believe that they can have fun only after a certain time of evening (or early morning)?Curfew can be an area ripe for power struggles, conflict & frustration. When the subject of curfew comes up, many parents hear the same old refrains, "Every one else's parents let them stay out as long as they want" (check it out, it's probably not accurate), "All the fun happens after m (read full article) |
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| Category :: Parenting Articles |
Author :: Jeff Herring |
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| Article Title :: The Teenager & the Gorilla |
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| “Why can’t they be like we were, perfect in every way?”Lee Adams, Bye Bye BirdieQ: A parent writes in to ask, "You write a lot about the difference between controlling and managing teenagers. What's the difference........., and how do we do it in our family?"A: In the counseling and seminars that I do, I have found that many parents are confused about the difference between controlling and managing their teenagers. In my experience, there is not only a huge difference, it's "the difference that makes a difference" when it comes to successfully dealing with the teen years in a family.Taking a control approach in a family will typically breed resentment (read full article) |
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| Category :: Parenting Articles |
Author :: Jeff Herring |
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| Article Title :: I Deserve Combat Pay! |
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| That's what one parent said to me a few years ago when I asked what brought them in to my office. They went on to say that it felt like what was once a pleasant family environment had become a battle ground. They weren't exactly sure how they got there and exactly what the war was about, much less what they got if they won.I've known many families who feel this way. It's as if they've been transported to the twilight zone where they don't recognize their children and no matter what they do, nothing works any more.The good news is there is much that can be done and many ways out of the war zone and back to a family you'd like to come home to.Allow me to make three sim (read full article) |
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| Category :: Parenting Articles |
Author :: Jeff Herring |
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| Article Title :: Parenting Your Teenager: Trust or Bust |
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| It doesn't have to be all or nothing."Mom, can I go to the mall with my friend Jenny?"
No, not after you came home late last night.
Well everybody else gets to.
I don't care what everybody else gets to do, you can't
You just don't trust me
You've got to earn it
I have
no you haven't
have too
have not
SLAM!!! etc.If the above conversation sounds familiar, you're probably the parent of a teenager. I especially love the "everybody else gets to do it" line. My parents response to that was "if everybody else stood on their head in the middle of the street at 3am in their underwear, would you?"Probably would (read full article) |
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| Category :: Parenting Articles |
Author :: Jeff Herring |
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| Article Title :: Parenting Your Teenager: Who-What-Where-When |
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| Many parents seem to be more than a little confused about what they have a right to know about their teens.The question I often get goes something like this: "We want to know where our 16-year-old son is going to be, and who he is with. He makes it sound as if we are the most out-of-it parents, and that it is abusively embarrassing to him that we want to know what he and his friends are doing. Are we being fair?"You have the right, need and obligation to know all these things, and more. I believe that every parent of a teen has the right to know and the crucial need to know several pieces of information that I call the W's.These crucial W's are:* Who they are s (read full article) |
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| Category :: Parenting Articles |
Author :: Jeff Herring |
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| Article Title :: Parenting Your Teenager: FAQ's from Parents of Teenagers |
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| Q: My husband and I are at a loss as to what to do with our two teenagers. They have been great kids and all of a sudden it seems like we are in teenage hell! We keep fighting to see the kids we once knew, and they keep fighting to get their own way. We have been considering family counseling, and really would like to know what goes on in counseling. Can you give us some help with our kids and what to expect in counseling?Sure can. Here’s how it usually goes. I get a call from a worried mom or dad, who are at a loss as to what to do with their teenager(s). We talk for a few minutes and we set an appointment.A few days later, (in desperate situations, sometimes the same day (read full article) |
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| Category :: Parenting Articles |
Author :: Jeff Herring |
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| Article Title :: Parenting Your Teenager: Universal Laws for Parents of Teenagers |
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| Law of Belonging - One of the greatest needs of teenagers (after music, screen time and the phone) is a strong sense of belonging. They need to feel like they are a part of something bigger than themselves. And guess what? If they do not get this need met in a healthy place, they will begin to look for ways to get this need met anywhere else they can find it.Law of Power - Once you’ve entered into a power struggle with a teenager, you’ve already lost. It's like the closing line "War Games", "Interesting game, the only winning move is not to play".Law of Control - Trying to control a teenager is like trying to put pants on a gorilla. It's just going (read full article) |
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