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Aline Asmar d'Amman, founder of Culture in Architecture, tells us about her favorite landscape, inspiring art, a cathedral of books, and more.

Set in the hills of Echo Park, a bungalow, designed by OWIU, is a serene yet versatile space that integrates natural beauty with modern living.

Step inside Marianna Tomlenovich’s dream home, where Italian influences and modern design combine to create a grand yet calming retreat.

Space is around us transforms the Kyano apartment in Athens into a sleek, multifunctional space that blends history with contemporary design.

Extending outwards in concentric hexagons, the Ripple Lamp by Rikke Frost for BoConcept makes the understated a statement.

Three new pieces from Swedish studio Bernadotte & Kylberg bring a luxurious serenity to the Eriksberg Hotel & Nature Reserve.

From imaginative play sets to museum-worthy crafts, these modern gift ideas promise wide-eyed wonder and endless fun for kids of all ages.

Kevin Frankental, co-owner and creative director of Lemon, tells us about his favorite chair, a Paris apartment, a design store in New York, and more.

With their unique forms, these 3D-printed lamps made from recycled plastic by Emil Robbrecht bring a playful element to your home.

A table collection from Cosentino and Modular, designed by Justine Kegels, celebrates the unique capabilities of modular lighting and stone.

First Reported: Wednesday, 13 Nov 2024 23:28:00
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Nourishing Heart Yoga Studio
582 E Hillside Drive in Bloomington, Indiana
Saturday, December 14, 2024, 7 – 8:30pm

Do you have a fear of singing or find singing to be intimidating? Here’s one for you: Join us Saturday, December 14, 7-8:30 PM at Nourishing Heart in Bloomington for an illuminating evening of 'Yoga of the Voice.’ Immerse yourself in a transformative experience blending deep relaxation and meditative-style singing to reduce your anxiety. If you're interested in sound healing or the expressive arts, you’ll love this! Bring a yoga mat and dress comfortably. Drop-ins welcome!

Presenter: Stephanie Heidemann
Contact: Stephanie Heidemann
Cost: $22
Ticket Web Link: nourishingheartyoga.com…
Communities: Bedford, Bloomington, Brown County, Columbus, Franklin, French Lick/West Baden, Greencastle, Greene County, Greensburg, Greenwood, Indianapolis, Kokomo, Martinsville, Seymour, Spencer, Statewide, Terre Haute
More info: nourishingheartyoga.com…

Ted Jone's Playhouse
Thursday, December 12, 2024, 7:30 – 9:30pm

Krista Detor is bringing back her beloved Holiday Show to Constellation Playhouse as a benefit for Artist Residencies at The Hundredth Hill! Special guests include Sam Bartlett, Dena El Saffar, Steve Mascari, Pat Otto, Eric Schedler, and David Weber - PLUS Surprise guests!

The show is a wild romp through the magic, mayhem, and melancholy of the season, and will include an early door time so that attendees can greet old friends, peruse the mini holiday market of local artists, grab a cup of cider, libation or even a festive snack - Just like a holiday at your aunt Norma’s, only without the police showing up!

Will-call will be available for pick up at the Buskirk-Chumley Theater box office until 4pm on the day of the show. After that, will-call will be available for pick up at the venue Constellation Playhouse (107 W. 9th Street, Bloomington, IN 47404 formally BPP Ted Jones Playhouse) when doors open for the event.

If not sold out, tickets will be available for purchase at the door of the venue. Cash and card will be accepted.

Presenter: The Hundredth Hill
Contact: BCT Box Office, boxoffice@buskirkchumley.org
Age Range: Families
Cost: $17 - $27
Ticket Phone: 812-323-3020
Ticket Web Link: buskirkchumley.org…
Communities: Bloomington

Indiana Memorial Union Alumni Hall
Sunday, December 8, 2024, 12 – 2pm

Sugarcoat your holiday season with a Gingerbread House Workshop! Assemble the sweetest house of your dreams in IMU Alumni Hall on Sunday, December 8 and Saturday, December 14.

Spaces are limited so be sure to make a reservation.

Presenter: Indiana University Office of Student Life/ IMU Sugar & Spice
Age Range: All Ages
More info: api.getspoonfed.com…

Musical Arts Center
Thursday, December 5, 2024, 7:30 – 9:30pm

Premiering just last year, Jacobs faculty choreographer Sasha Janes’ updated, stereotype- shattering version of this most popular ballet tells the story from the perspective of curious young Marie.

With the help of her Aunt Drosselmeyer, Marie learns to unleash the power of her imagination to take the audience with her on a wild adventure.

This fresh take on a fantastical story still features the incomparable score by Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky.

“It was hands down the most magical version of The Nutcracker I have ever seen.” – Pointe Magazine 2023 Readers’ Choice

Cost: $25-$45
Ticket Web Link: operaballet.indiana.edu…
More info: operaballet.indiana.edu…

Buskirk-Chumley Theater
Saturday, November 30, 2024, 7 – 8:15pm

Bloomington’s own Nutcracker Ballet, danced by children for children and families! This slightly abridged version of the classic Nutcracker Ballet follows Clara through her adventures after receiving a magical gift from her Uncle Drosselmeyer. Watch Clara and the Nutcracker battle the evil Mouse King, dance through a swirl of snowflakes into the night and arrive in the magical Land of the Sweets presided over by the Sugar Plum Fairy and her sweet courtiers. Was it all a dream? Or was it the magic of Uncle Drosselmeyer and his gift?

Doors open 30 minutes before each performance.

Children 3 and younger that can sit on a parent's lap and don't need their own seat do not need a ticket.

Presenter: MotionArts Dance Academy
Contact: BCT Box Office, boxoffice@buskirkchumley.org
Cost: $15 -$20
Ticket Phone: 812-323-3020
Ticket Web Link: buskirkchumley.org…
Communities: Bloomington

Nourishing Heart Yoga Studio
582 E Hillside Drive in Bloomington, Indiana
Saturday, November 23, 2024, 7 – 8:30pm

Do you have a fear of singing or find singing to be intimidating? Here’s one for you: Join us Saturday, November 23, 7-8:30 PM at Nourishing Heart in Bloomington for an illuminating evening of 'Yoga of the Voice.’ Immerse yourself in a transformative experience blending deep relaxation and meditative-style singing to reduce your anxiety. If you're interested in sound healing or the expressive arts, you’ll love this! Bring a yoga mat and dress comfortably. Drop-ins welcome!

Presenter: Stephanie Heidemann
Contact: Stephanie Heidemann
Cost: $22
Ticket Web Link: nourishingheartyoga.com…
Communities: Bedford, Bloomington, Brown County, Columbus, Franklin, French Lick/West Baden, Greencastle, Greene County, Greensburg, Greenwood, Indianapolis, Kokomo, Martinsville, Seymour, Spencer, Statewide, Terre Haute
More info: nourishingheartyoga.com…

Waldron Arts Center
Sunday, November 17, 2024, 2 – 4pm

KEEP BLOOMINGTON WEIRD! Help celebrate our unique community with comedy, satire and music – the audience becomes part of the show!

The Firehouse Follies is a worldwide showcase for the amazing talent we have in Bloomington and South Central Indiana. A live broadcast performance features audio theater plays and sketches by the Mighty Firehouse Art Players, music from Kid Kazooey and the Four-Alarm Orchestra, special musical guest Krista Detor, and poetry created by Indiana's Literary Champion, Tony Brewer. On Sunday, November 17, doors open at 1 p.m., because the Waldron Auditorium has a lounge with a full bar (and things for kids and nondrinkers), and the show is live on the air from 2-4 p.m. Plenty of free parking, so come and join us!

Broadcast and streamed live over WFHB, 91.3 FM and www.wfhb.org .

Will-call will be available for pick up at the Buskirk-Chumley Theater box office until 2:30pm on Saturday 11/16. After that, will-call will be available for pick up at the venue Waldron Auditorium (122 S Walnut St, Bloomington, IN 47404) when doors open for the event.

Online and Buskirk-Chumley Theater sales will end at 2:30pm on Saturday 11/16. If not sold out, tickets will be available for purchase at the door of the venue. Cash and check will be accepted.

Presenter: WFHB
Contact: BCT Box Office, boxoffice@buskirkchumley.org
Cost: $12 - $22
Ticket Phone: 812-323-3020
Ticket Web Link: buskirkchumley.org…
Communities: Bloomington

Waldron Auditorium
Sunday, November 17, 2024, 2 – 4pm

The Firehouse Follies is a worldwide showcase for the amazing talent we have in Bloomington and South Central Indiana. A live broadcast performance features audio theater plays and comedy sketches by the Mighty Firehouse Art Players, music from Kid Kazooey and the Four-Alarm Orchestra, special musical guest Krista Detor, and poetry created by Indiana's Literary Champion, Tony Brewer. The audience becomes part of the two-hour show at the Waldron Auditorium, starting at 2 p.m. November 17, so come and join us! Broadcast and streamed live over WFHB, 91.3 FM and www.wfhb.org

Presenter: WFHB
Contact: Richard Fish
Directed By: Richard Fish
Cast: TBA
Cost: $20 Adult, $15 Student, $10 Child
Ticket Phone: 812-323-3020
Ticket Web Link: buskirkchumley.org…
Communities: Bedford, Bloomington, Brown County, Columbus, Franklin, French Lick/West Baden, Greencastle, Greene County, Greensburg, Greenwood, Indianapolis, Kokomo, Martinsville, Seymour, Spencer, Statewide, Terre Haute
More info: wfhb.org…

Bloomington Yoga Collective
116 W. 6th Street, Suite 110,
Bloomington, Indiana 47404
Saturday, November 16, 2024, 12:30 – 2pm

Do you have a fear of singing or find singing to be intimidating? Here’s one for you: Join us Saturday, November 16, 12:30-2PM at Bloomington Yoga Collective for an illuminating experience of 'Yoga of the Voice.’ Immerse yourself in a transformative experience blending deep relaxation and meditative-style singing to reduce your anxiety. If you're interested in sound healing or the expressive arts, you’ll love this! Bring a yoga mat and dress comfortably. Drop-ins welcome!

Presenter: Stephanie Heidemann
Contact: Stephanie Heidemann
Cost: $22
Ticket Web Link: www.bloomingtonyogaco.com…
Communities: Bedford, Bloomington, Brown County, Columbus, Franklin, French Lick/West Baden, Greencastle, Greene County, Greensburg, Greenwood, Indianapolis, Kokomo, Martinsville, Seymour, Spencer, Statewide, Terre Haute
More info: www.bloomingtonyogaco.com…

302 S. College Avenue
Saturday, November 16, 10am – Sunday, November 17, 2024, 4pm

Find 100+ local indie artists at the Bloomington Handmade Market, November 16 & 17! Open 10am - 4pm both days at the Monroe Convention Center in Bloomington.

Age Range: All Ages
Cost: Free
More info: www.facebook.com…

Virtual Zoom event
Thursday, November 14, 2024, 7 – 8:30pm

Sycamore Land Trust and Citizens’ Climate Lobby Indiana present a free lecture and Q&A with Dr. Richard Phillips “From Tree Tops to Deep Roots: The Role of Eastern Forests as Carbon Sinks.” We’ll discuss how eastern forest ecosystems serve as important carbon sinks that can help mitigate rapid climate change, and explore above- and below-ground processes in forests and how they contribute to the land sink for carbon. Dr. Richard Phillips is a Professor of Biology at Indiana University, Bloomington, Director of the Ecology and Evolutionary Biology Graduate Program, and Science Director at IU Research and Teaching Preserve.

Presenter: Sycamore Land Trust and Citizens' Climate Lobby Indiana
Contact: Kate Hammel, Communications Director
Cost: Free
Ticket Phone: 812-336-5382
Ticket Web Link: sycamorelandtrust.org…
Communities: Bedford, Bloomington, Brown County, Columbus, Franklin, French Lick/West Baden, Greencastle, Greene County, Greensburg, Greenwood, Indianapolis, Kokomo, Martinsville, Seymour, Spencer, Statewide, Terre Haute
More info: sycamorelandtrust.org…

Waldron Firebay Theatre
Thursday, November 14, 7pm – Sunday, November 24, 2024, 2pm

Hello! I believe I submitted an event previously for this production. The dates have been changed. The new dates are November 14th-24th. Please reach out to me if you do not have a previous submission for Closer by Patrick Marber presented by Eclipse Productions Company on the calendar, or if you have any questions. Thank you!

Presenter: Eclipse Productions Company
Contact: Konnor Graber
Written By: Patrick Marber
Directed By: Kate Weber
Cast: Konnor Graber, Jeremy Weber, Patricia Francis, Shayna Survil
Ticket Web Link: www.eclipseproductionscompany.com…

Waldron Firebay
Thursday, November 14, 7pm – Sunday, November 24, 2024, 7pm

Eclipse Productions presents their 4th show! Closer is an intimate story following 4 individuals seeking love and meaning in the world and each other. A romantic comedy that does not go according to plan.

Presenter: Eclipse Productions Company
Contact: Shayna Survil
Written By: Patrick Marber
Directed By: Kate Weber
Cast: Patricia Francis, Konnor Graber, Jeremy Weber, Shayna Survil
Ticket Web Link: www.eclipseproductionscompany.com…
More info: www.eclipseproductionscompany.com

Morgenstern Books
849 S Auto Mall Rd
Bloomington
Thursday, November 14, 2024, 6:30 – 7:30pm

Join us in the Morgenstern Books café for an evening in conversation with author Bronislava Volková, discussing her book, Forms of Exile in Jewish Literature and Thought.

Presenter: Molly Bowman
Contact: Molly Bowman
Communities: Bedford, Bloomington, Brown County, Columbus, Franklin, French Lick/West Baden, Greencastle, Greene County, Greensburg, Greenwood, Indianapolis, Kokomo, Martinsville, Seymour, Spencer, Statewide, Terre Haute
More info: morgensternbooks.com…

Auer Hall, Simon Music Center
Thursday, November 14, 2024, 5 – 6:30pm

Ik-Hwan Bae was professor of music in violin and chamber music at the IU Jacobs School of Music from 1999 until his passing in 2014. He was born in Seoul, Korea, and made his professional debut with the Seoul Philharmonic at age 12. He studied with Ivan Galamian at The Juilliard School and was busily engaged in concertizing and teaching throughout his career.

More info: events.iu.edu…

Burlingame, CA 94010, United States
Wednesday, November 13 – Thursday, November 14, 2024

After the success of Dental Marketing 2023 in San Francisco we are inviting participants across the globe to attend 42st International Conference on Dentistry & Dental Marketing (Dental Marketing 2024) during November 13-14, 2024 in San Francisco, USA. The main theme of the conference is ‘Modern Dentistry with Gentle Care’ The relative novel nature of the conference and its relevance to the current dental market makes this summit an event to look forward for all the individuals of the Dental Community.

Presenter: Conference Series LLC Ltd
Contact: Elena Tylor
Cost: $499
Ticket Phone: 307-215-1648
Ticket Web Link: dentalmarketing.conferenceseries.com…
More info: dentalmarketing.conferenceseries.com

Ford-Crawford Hall, Simon Music Center
Tuesday, November 12, 2024, 5 – 6pm

More info: events.iu.edu…

Buskirk-Chumley Theater
Monday, November 11, 2024, 7:30 – 9:30pm

The Natalie Boeyink Jazz Ensemble will commemorate Veteran’s Day with compositions by those who served. Selections include works by Glenn Miller, John Coltrane, Clark Terry, Wayne Shorter, Horace Silver and more.

Presenter: Indiana University Jacobs School of Music Jazz Studies Department
Contact: BCT Box Office, boxoffice@buskirkchumley.org
Cost: Free!
Ticket Phone: 812-323-3020
Communities: Bloomington
More info: buskirkchumley.org…

Buskirk-Chumley Theater
Monday, November 11, 2024, 7:30 – 9:30pm

More info: events.iu.edu…

Morgenstern Books
849 S Auto Mall Rd
Bloomington
Monday, November 11, 2024, 7 – 8pm

The monthly meeting of the Morgenstern Books Murder Mystery Book Club is hosted by bookseller and mystery/thriller enthusiast, Grace!

The read for November is The Enigma of Room 622 by Joël Dicker.

Presenter: Grace Hamilton
Contact: Molly Bowman
Communities: Bedford, Bloomington, Brown County, Columbus, Franklin, French Lick/West Baden, Greencastle, Greene County, Greensburg, Greenwood, Indianapolis, Kokomo, Martinsville, Seymour, Spencer, Statewide, Terre Haute
More info: morgensternbooks.com…

Ford-Crawford Hall, Simon Music Center
Monday, November 11, 2024, 5 – 6pm

More info: events.iu.edu…

Ford-Crawford Hall, Simon Music Center
Sunday, November 10, 2024, 3 – 4pm

More info: events.iu.edu…

Auer Hall, Simon Music Center
Sunday, November 10, 2024, 11am – 12pm

More info: events.iu.edu…

by Anonymous

Please vote as if you want stress to become eradicated. Please vote as if a solution to gentrification is needed to be found. Don't let the disaster capitalists continue to have the loudest voices in the room. Please vote to free us from private equity's grip. Please vote that bouncing forward not resilience can become an aftermath of any disaster. Please vote that the new form of feudalism is not okay and should not continue. . Please vote to continue to capturing consensus in the public sphere. Please insert yourself into the public sphere as much as you can after the election so the consensus model can truly expand. Thanks for the read! xoxox

by Wm. Steven Humphrey

If you’re reading this, you probably know the value of the Mercury’s news reporting, arts and culture coverage, event calendar, and the bevy of events we host throughout the year. The work we do helps our city shine, but we can’t do it without your support. If you believe Portland benefits from smart, local journalism and arts coverage, please consider making a small monthly contribution, because without you, there is no us. Thanks for your support!

GOOD MORNING, PORTLAND! ????

Look, it's time for two things: VOTING and NAIL-BITING. We're T-minus five days from the November 5 election, so (if you haven't already) it's time to fill out your ballot! Need help? Then check out the Mercury's Election Issue (in more than 500 spots around town) which comes complete with all our endorsements AND our handy-dandy voter cheat sheet! I can't help you with the nail-biting... but I can provide some NEWS.

IN LOCAL NEWS:

• Police have revealed more about the Ballot Box Bomber (igniter?) who dropped incendiary devices into election boxes in Portland (harming three ballots) and Vancouver (destroying 475). Cops previously identified the make and model of the car—a Volvo S60—and says the suspect is likely a "Caucasian male, 30-40 years of age, very short hair or balding, thin to medium build, thin face, wearing a dark shirt, highly knowledgeable in both metal fabrication and welding." A reward of $2,500 has been offered for information that leads to the arrest of the individual, who police say may strike again. 

• In other election news, city leaders are freaking out over the possibility of civil unrest on election night if an authoritarian despot takes office with the intent of dismantling democracy and making life a living hell for anyone other than his supporters (which is to say, wealthy business leaders and Christian nationalists). Portland Police officers plan to work 12 hour shifts starting on election day, outgoing DA Mike Schmidt is promising criminal prosecutions for those who commit violence and/or the destruction of property, and the county is freeing up jail beds. And of course, Portland's shadow mayor—Andrew Hoan of the Portland Metro Chamber (AKA Portland Business Alliance)—is once again being platformed by local media, and blaming protesters for Portland's shitty reputation when it was his own allies in the millionaire and political class who in 2020 cried like babies to Fox News and the New York Times that Portland was "dead" and a hellhole, because they weren't getting the tax breaks they felt they were entitled to. Reminder that while there definitely a small group of violent a-holes mixed in with the thousands who were righteously protesting police violence against people of color, most of the so-called riots were not riots, and that these cynical attempts by the city (and its business rulers) to curb free speech is exactly why we don't want Trump in office. Stop being fooled.

Independent Audit: Portland has done almost no oversight of business districts that could criminalize homelessness

Lame duck City Council: Let’s give them a 10 year contract extension!

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— Portland for All (@PDXforAll) October 30, 2024

• Oregon's largest gas utility, NW Natural, is on the receiving end of two lawsuits alleging they use greenwashing tactics to hide the negative environmental impact of natural gas, while knowingly disenfranchising customers and contributing to the climate crisis. Our Taylor Griggs has the details.

Oregon’s first romance-only bookstore is now open in Portland https://t.co/vRKgRyRWa9

— Ryan Haas (@ryanjhaas) October 31, 2024

• Big news: Our own Rose City Rollers derby team will be hosting the Women’s Flat Track Derby Association Global Championships this weekend, right here in Portland! Our Rollers will also be competing for their fifth straight championship win. Trust me, I've attended one of these championships and they are a goddamn BLAST. Interested in going, and learning more RCR's very interesting history? Check out this banger of a story from our own Courtney Vaughn.

• Oh, and HAPPY HALLOWEEN (to those in my coven who celebrate). For those planning on trick-or-treating tonight, you better find matching raincoat to go with your Sexy Chipotle Fork costume—the weather forecast calls for steady rain during the prime candy grabbin' hours.

Looking for fun on election night? Join your friends at Mississippi Studios for the Mercury's official election night watch party—hosted by the hilarious Alex Falcone and Shain Brenden! (And what? IT'S FREE!)https://t.co/OXyBltoyPr

— Portland Mercury ???? (@portlandmercury) October 29, 2024

IN NATIONAL/WORLD NEWS:

• And because it's impossible to think about anything else, here's your roundup of ELECTION HEADLINES:

"Trump says he would 'protect' women, 'whether the women like it or not'"  • "Dems see signs for optimism in gender gap in early vote" • "At least a quarter million cancel Washington Post subscriptions after non-endorsement, report says" • "MAGA activists say the election is rigged, vow to overturn the results if Trump loses" • "Trump and Johnson hand Democrats an 11th-hour lifeline" • "Election officials are outmatched by Elon Musk’s misinformation machine" • "Trump transition official says RFK Jr. wants to force vaccines off the market" • "Harris’s momentum in California energizes House Democrats, rattles GOP"

President Biden and ... guess who ?! ????
First Lady Jill Biden dressed as a panda for a White House Halloween event @WUSA9 pic.twitter.com/NvFLgt1x4j

— Lorenzo Hall (@LorenzoHall) October 31, 2024

• The Los Angeles Dodgers are the newest World Series champions after defeating the New York Yankees 7-6 last night in a five game series. It was a stunning comeback for the Dodgers who were behind 5-0 in the third inning before the Yankees committed three errors and the Dodgers came roaring back in the fifth and eighth innings to seal the deal. 

• In a show of impotent masculinity, North Korea launched a test of their new long-range test missile that has the ability to reach the US mainland. The test launch was in obvious response to Washington's announcement that the North Korean dictatorship was sending troops to Ukraine to aid the Russians.

SNL is Brat https://t.co/EMld5xBEU6

— Pitchfork (@pitchfork) October 31, 2024

• A blast from the somewhat recent past (though it feels like a million years ago): The star of Tiger King, Joe Exotic, has announced he is engaged to a fellow inmate in a Texas prison, where he's serving a 21-year stretch for hiring a hitman to kill competitor Carole Baskin, as well as multiple counts of wildlife crimes. 

• And finally... if this actually happened at museums—I WOULD GO ALL THE TIME.

@anakins85 #thedramaisreal #grabsomepopcorn #thatsart ♬ original sound - All ???? No Shade!

Plus, Nils Frahm and More Event Updates for October 31 by EverOut Staff

It’s Halloween! Treat yourself to tickets to see Tyler, The Creator on his Chromakopia tour. Country pop princess Kelsea Ballerini has also announced a stop at Moda Center next spring. Plus, Berlin-based pianist, composer, and producer Nils Frahm will set up his elaborate vintage gear at the Schnitz. Read on for details on those and other newly announced events, plus some news you can use.

MUSIC

Amyl and The Sniffers: Cartoon Darkness Tour
Crystal Ballroom (Mar 25, 2025)

Ashe: The Trilogy Tour
Revolution Hall (June 17, 2025)

Daily Bread – Flash Flood Tour
Wonder Ballroom (Mar 22, 2025)

by Suzette Smith

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Good Morning, Portland! When they told me a bat could be beautiful I didn't believe, but now I believe.

IN LOCAL NEWS:
• As October comes to a close, so too does the Bureau of Land Management’s annual Bat Beauty Contest, which asks where the "most stunning bat photographed on BLM public lands" can be found? It's Oregon, motherfuckers! For the third year running WE HAVE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL BAT. YES! Despite J. K. Rowling's tarnished-as-hell legacy, we can still celebrate this feisty male hoary bat, Hoary Potter. It's also worth noting that this is the second year a bat photographed by wildlife technician Emma Busk took top beauty honors. Busk wrote, "anyone who knows me knows that I’ve been wanting to photograph a hoary bat,"—a sentiment we can all echo.

BLM's most beautiful bat is from Oregon, and I love him. pic.twitter.com/T8qQgsz5kT

— Suzette Smith (@suzettesmith) November 1, 2024

• There's also terrible news, unfortunately. Yesterday evening, a shooting at Vancouver Mall, in Vancouver, WA, killed one person and injured two in the building's food court.  A witness who spoke to KOIN described "a harrowing scene, as the shopping center was full of kids trick-or-treating." So far, police have said they do not have a suspect in custody and the person may still be armed. They told KOIN they were reviewing surveillance footage, but have not yet released a description of the shooter.

• Oh my god, Clark County are you okay? KPTV reports that Clark County Elections Office is warning voters to beware of unofficial ballot boxes. Unofficial ballot boxes are not illegal in Washington! (This also appears to be true of Oregon!) Clark County Elections encouraged voters official ballot return locations.

• The Oregonian is returning to broadsheet size, they announced yesterday in a post that did not explain what that is for readers who didn't go to graphic design school / work in at newspaper with some old dude named Phil. Somewhat surprisingly, Willamette Week's Nigel Jaquiss stepped in to clarify. Tabloid is hotdog style fold; broadsheet is burger. Both WW and the Mercury are hotdogs. The New York Times is burger fold.

• NPR's Up First weirdly tried to do a report on Vice President Kamala Harris "highlighting Trump's own language and using it against him," as if that's somehow something of which to be critical? Gave me the vapors of the new Hasaan Hates Portland sketch from this week:

• In two week's the city's beloved queer documentary festival QDoc will host the Oregon debut of The World According to Allee Willis, which explores the complicated life of a queer "song doctor" who co-wrote not only Earth, Wind and Fire's "September," but the Friends TV show theme. Check out Melissa Locker's review of the film.; she says it's not to be missed!

• Did you take this week's local news quiz? 

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IN NATIONAL NEWS:
• Atlanta rap star Young Thug, born Jeffery Williams, finally walked free last night, after pleading guilty to "six counts, including possession of drugs and firearms... leading a criminal street gang and conspiracy to violate the RICO act, the state’s racketeering law," the New York Times reports. As part of the plea, the judge sentenced Williams to a total sentence of 40 years, but commuted the five years of prison time to the two and a half years that Williams has already served. Williams will remain on probation for 15 years, and will "be required to stay away from metro Atlanta for the first 10 years of his probation." He is also required to take random drug tests, make anti-gang presentations for children's organizations four times a year, perform 100 hours of community service a year, and "refrain from promoting gangs or being around known gang members." The ongoing Young Slime Life (YSL) court proceedings—which caused NYT's Joe Coscarelli to ask "is YSL was a record label, street gang, or both?"—have stretched into what is now the longest trial in Georgia history. Despite three other plea deals this week, it appears the trial will continue with the two remaining co-defendants.

• Mark Zuckerberg dressed as Fran Lebowitz for Halloween, and that's just what happened.

Mark Zuckerberg dressed as John Wick for Halloween but I thought it was Fran Lebowitz pic.twitter.com/zdXaomOMPR

— Meech (@MediumSizeMeech) November 1, 2024

• You're going to see some stuff today about "explosive new audio" recordings where Donald Trump speaks candidly to the reviled Jeffrey Epstein about his White House Staff and his disdain for the position itself. It's only really on the Daily Beast, the podcast of journalist Michael Wolff, and a few other sites. I'd rather wait til a super solid source gets it—seems like maybe they're holding off because they're checking it?—but the story is out there. Don't sound like anything particularly new, but people are saying "October surprise" because they want attention.

• Also in weird news about guys we already thought were corrupt, Supreme Court Justice Samuel Alito is apparently pledged to some secretive religious traditionalist organization. That tracks.

• Flashback to this masterpiece, which has been floating around the zeitgeist all week.

Portland All Souls River Procession, Family Dinner, and More Cheap & Easy Events Under $15 by EverOut Staff

We hope you're not too tired from Halloween partying because there's plenty of fun events to hit up this weekend, from The 4th Annual Portland All Souls River Procession to The People's Court's Camp Crystal Lake Halloween Party and from the Family Dinner benefit concert to a Diwali Festival. For more ideas, check out our guide to the top events of the week. P.S. Daylight Saving Time ends on Sunday—don't forget to set your clocks back!

Camp Crystal Lake at TPC Halloween Party
For the uninitiated, Camp Crystal Lake is the name of the kids' camp attended by serial killer Jason Voorhees in the Friday the 13th film series. This Friday, it’s the theme for a night of Halloween revelry at recreational sports spot The People's Courts. I expect there’ll be a lot of hockey masks and camp counselors in the costume contest—as well as creeping around the 48,000-square-foot facility during the scavenger hunt, so prepare for jump scares. Bring your friends for an evening of themed drink specials, photo ops, and lighthearted competition: bocce, corn hole, and disc golf are included in your ticket, but it'll be an additional cost if you want to get some pickleball games in. SHANNON LUBETICH
(The People's Courts, Madison South, $12 regular admission/$25 for pickleball)

Cà Phê, Hand-Smashed Lime Tea, and Sour Pomegranate Doughnuts by EverOut Staff Welcome to November! Kick off the month with fresh lime tea from The Lime Stand, açaí bowls from the new gluten-free bakery Kirari West, and Vietnamese coffee from Friends Share Cà Phê. Plus, find out where to get passionfruit frozen custard and sour pomegranate doughnuts. For more ideas, check out our food and drink guide.

NEW OPENINGS & RETURNS

Friends Share Cà Phê
Bridgetown Bites reports that this Vietnamese cafe pop-up is set to launch inside the recently opened Friends Share community space in East Portland from 10 am-2 pm on Sunday, November 3. The menu will feature coffee, jasmine tea, hot chocolate sweetened with condensed milk, and bánh mì.
Centennial

by Wm. Steven Humphrey

If you’re reading this, you probably know the value of the Mercury’s news reporting, arts and culture coverage, event calendar, and the bevy of events we host throughout the year. The work we do helps our city shine, but we can’t do it without your support. If you believe Portland benefits from smart, local journalism and arts coverage, please consider making a small monthly contribution, because without you, there is no us. Thanks for your support!

GOOD MORNING, PORTLAND! ????

Hmmm... let's check the calendar to see if anything interesting is happening this week, and... OH WOW, THE ELECTION IS TOMORROW. If you haven't filled out your ballot yet, allow us to help! Check out the Mercury's Election Issue (in more than 500 spots around town) which comes complete with all our endorsements AND our handy-dandy voter cheat sheet! And despite what some people might say, voting is actually a lot easier than you might think. Now let's think a little about today's NEWS.

IN LOCAL NEWS:

• Let's start with the disappointing Oregonian headline of the day:

Oh, hello... unless I overslept again and missed it, THE ELECTION HASN'T HAPPENED YET, AND THEREFORE HAS NOT BEEN "UPENDED" BY ANYTHING. Despite the inference behind this very poorly worded headline, ranked-choice voting is actually super easy, and having a "sprawling" candidate field simply means that we finally have a far more diverse group of people (not just moneyed white dudes bought and paid for by local business interests) running for office. THAT IS A VERY GOOD THING. So allow me to rewrite this headline: "Ranked-choice voting, healthy and diverse candidate field is great for Portland City Council races and democracy in general." Oh, and you are WELCOME.

Filling out your ballot this weekend? GOOD! Need help? Voila, here's your 100% accurate Mercury Endorsement Cheat Sheet to help you fill out your ballot lickety-split!https://t.co/kKi0W0Yfmd

— Portland Mercury ???? (@portlandmercury) November 2, 2024

• As we know, Portland's attempts to construct and carry out good environmental policies has been hampered by our current city council (who, again, was bought and paid for by local business interests ????). However, that could very well change with a more progressive, people-oriented council, and a significant number of current candidates are promising to change this narrative if they are elected to office on Tuesday. Find out more with this interesting report from our Taylor Griggs.

• A suspect has been arrested in the Halloween shooting at a Vancouver mall which left one person dead and two injured. Vancouver resident Travis L. Ward was taken into custody by police and members of the city's SWAT team after receiving tips from Facebook users. The shooting was allegedly a targeted attack, and the suspect—who was reportedly dressed in black and wearing a clown mask—is scheduled to appear in court today.

When Skye Baskin died, it was initially portrayed as a failure of the Oregon State Hospital. New records reviewed by OPB indicate serious failures in the Douglas County Jail preceded his death.

Jail health care remains terrible in Oregon. https://t.co/Jwm2Z1Ziik

— Ryan Haas (@ryanjhaas) November 4, 2024

• One of Oregon's conservation greats, Bob Sallinger, has died suddenly at the age of 57. Known for leading such longtime environmental groups as Willamette Riverkeeper and Bird Conservation Oregon (BCO), Sallinger was a beloved figure who, according to the board of BCO, "was a pioneer in highlighting the importance of preserving and restoring wildlife habitat in urban areas, and a key player in efforts to conserve iconic Oregon landscapes, including the Elliott Forest, Malheur National Wildlife Refuge, and the Klamath Basin." He will be missed.

Looking for fun on election night? Join your friends at Mississippi Studios for the Mercury's official election night watch party—hosted by the hilarious Alex Falcone and Shain Brenden! (And what? IT'S FREE!)https://t.co/OXyBltoyPr

— Portland Mercury ???? (@portlandmercury) November 3, 2024

IN NATIONAL/WORLD NEWS:

• Since that's all anyone can think about at the moment, here's your ELECTION EVE HEADLINE ROUNDUP: "Harris and Trump head to key battleground states for final campaign sprint." "GOP primed to back Trump if he contests election." (And he will.) "North Carolina sees turnout record with more than 4.2M ballots cast at early in-person voting sites." "Trump doesn't rule out banning vaccines if he becomes president." "Pollster Behind Shock Iowa Poll Hits Back at Trump’s Attacks." "Trump says he doesn’t mind someone shooting at journalists at rally." "Ad showing women hiding their vote from their husbands sparks conservative anger." (Hee-hee-hee!)

Univision poll: Latino voters

Harris 64%
Trump 30%

69% said the Puerto Rico garbage remark was "more racist than humorous."

Oct. 29-Nov. 3, MOE +/-5%

— Kyle Griffin (@kylegriffin1) November 4, 2024

This is NORTH CAROLINA the morning before the election. Donald Trump is on stage in 90 mins time at this 7,600 seater stadium and there are NO huge crowds outside and people are still walking in. I have never seen this at a Trump rally in a red state. pic.twitter.com/AXYFP3n7m0

— Phil Lavelle ????????/???? (@phillavelle) November 4, 2024

• The tech union for the New York Times—which helps handle such critical things as, say... oh, I don't know... election coverage—is going on strike today after management (who have reportedly known about this strike deadline for months) failed to come to an agreement with workers.

• A cyclone in the Caribbean is showing signs of developing into (yet another) hurricane this week as storm prepares to cross over Cuba and into the Gulf of Mexico.

I do believe that, despite this, she will win https://t.co/cOU7ZeWAKa

— Chase Mitchell (@ChaseMit) November 3, 2024

• RIP to one of the music industry's most prolific giants, Quincy Jones (who produced the best-selling album of all time, Michael Jackson's Thriller, as well as countless other memorable songs and movie scores) who has died at the age of 91.

• And finally... you and this goat paper towel dispenser share something in common a day before the election:

@henajahan_ #goat ♬ original sound - HenAJaHan_

Sabrina Carpenter, David Sedaris, and More by EverOut Staff

There's plenty of first-rate events to check out this week, from The Official Portland Mercury Election Watch Party to Sabrina Carpenter's Short N’ Sweet Tour and from Kumoricon to An Evening With David Sedaris, but first, make sure to VOTE! And for a look at the month ahead, check out our November events guide.

Dehd
Chicago-based indie-rock trio Dehd, who Pitchfork has dubbed "as much a rock band as they are a viable alternative to Red Bull," is coming to town to support their new album, Poetry. The album sounds like the sonic interpretation of the summer season with warm guitar riffs and bouncing percussion that evokes running down a beach to catch the ice cream truck. Don't miss an opening set from Brooklyn-based art-punk band Gustaf. AUDREY VANN
(Wonder Ballroom, Eliot)

Worried? Try putting your head deep into this garbage gossip can for a few minutes. by Elinor Jones

Hello, and welcome back to the Trash Report! Like many people with mental illness, my home is a reflection of what is happening with the ol' brain—when depression is in the driver's seat, my house gets messy; when anxiety is calling the shots, the palace is pristine. And friends, being ONE DAY away from yet ANOTHER "most crucial presidential election of our time," I am literally out of things to organize! There is no more dust. I'm ironing? Your girl is not okay. I love this column for an excuse to look at something besides another very frightening poll, so let's get to the trash!

As this election plummets to its final resting place, Kamala Harris has collected endorsements from such luminaries as Cardi B, Bad Bunny, Eminem, Jennifer Lopez, Harrison Ford, and most of the Avengers.

I do believe that, despite this, she will win https://t.co/cOU7ZeWAKa

— Chase Mitchell (@ChaseMit) November 3, 2024

The most recent celebrity to come out for Trump was none other than the the famously antisemitic Mel Gibson, who shared his support only after Trump's Nazi rally at Madison Square Garden, which goes to prove just how much of a Nazi rally that definitely was.  

On a recent episode of his podcast, Ted Danson apologized to Kelsey Grammer for carrying a grudge since they worked together on Cheers. Grammer graciously accepted the apology. But I am not graciously receiving this "gossip." What happened?! What was the argument about? Why do this on a podcast without giving us the tea? This is the same kind of bullshit "this is not who we are" 2016-era dignity that no longer is the vibe. We're petty now! Tell us who was mean! Danson went on to say "I feel like I missed out on the last 30 years of Kelsey Grammer." What celebrity planet was Ted Danson living on because I feel like the rest of us have seen far too much Kelsey Grammer in the past 30 years. Streaming services were basically invented to avoid reruns of Frasier. 

In much more interesting feuds, Martha Stewart alluded to one between her and fellow kitchen and lifestyle guru Ina Garten. Garten had claimed in her recent memoir that the women drifted apart after one of them moved to Connecticut. Stewart agrees that the rift had to do with a move, but it was Stewart moving into a federal prison. I would imagine it could feel complicated to be a public figure being friends with a felon, but I can guarantee that if one of my friends went to jail for a non-violent crime I wouldn't stop talking to them! I'd probably talk way too much to them, in fact. I just have so many questions. If Martha Stewart and I had been friends who fell out and she later reflected on it, she would be like "Elinor was there for me when I was in jail, but she was too there for me, and wouldn't leave me alone, and I was sick of talking about prison toilet wine, so that's when our feud started."

The long-awaited sequel to The Gladiator is coming out soon and I could not have less interest in going to see it! That is, until Pedro Pascal revealed that he and Paul Mescal kissed in one take of a fight scene, and that might be the take they used in the movie, and I guess I'm going to go see Gladiator 2 now. Have the Wicked PR folks considered floating a rumor that Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande kiss instead of hawking a green and pink version of every product on God's green earth? (And is there a pink earth? There probably will be soon!) 

At this point is there a category of merchandise that doesn’t have a Wicked tie-in? I’m half expecting my gynecologist to ask whether I want a pink or green speculum.

— Anika Chapin (@AnikaChapin) October 31, 2024

Channing Tatum and Zoe Kravitz have allegedly called off their engagement after three years together, and just days after Tatum finally ended his years-long divorce saga with ex Jenna Dewan. This makes me think that Zoe Kravitz for sure never thought that Tatum's divorce would ever be finalized when she said yes to that ring. Tatum has been spotted around New York City smoking cigarettes, but holding them in a way that makes me think he hasn't smoked before; starting smoking at 44 is hilarious, but also very hot and chic!

In other rebound choices, Gisele Bunchen revealed that she is pregnant with her third child, which will be her first since getting divorced from Tom Brady, and the first with her boyfriend, who is also her longtime Jiu-Jitsu instructor. Tom Brady is reacting to it like any normal 30-year-old woman and posting Fleetwood Mac lyrics to his Instagram which is the most I've ever liked him. 

Helen Mirren recently waxed poetically about tragic losses of beloved icons, specifically Kurt Cobain, and specifically that Kurt Cobain's early demise in the 90s meant that he never got to experience the magic that is a GPS system. Iconic music producer Quincy Jones passed away just yesterday. He would have seen GPS. Does Helen Mirren not think this is as sad of a loss, because at least he died with the immense satisfaction of having watched a little dot that represented his car being driven towards a destination, thus making it a full and worthwhile life? Helen Mirren has yet to comment. 

A Sam's Club in Maryland had to shut down last week due to a racoon breaking into their bakery. A statement from the store read "after attempts to locate the raccoon were unsuccessful, Sam's Club representatives were advised best practices to properly capture the animal." Which means that during the initial attempts to capture the animal, they had no idea what the best practices were, and it must have been so funny. Imagine that raccoon's surprise to learn that there is a way to eat croissants, pre-trash? Going back to garbage pastries after that has got to be a bummer. Anyway, as the kids say, "in da clerb we all fam," but the clerb is a Sam's Club. Sam's Clerb, as it were.

Okay, I just realized there's a bookshelf in my office that I haven't yet reorganized and if I don't do that right now it will make it so college-educated women in Michigan won't turn out in numbers, which makes a lot of sense when you think about it. I hope you get through the next few days okay. If you process stress by being around people, the Mercury is going to hold an election night party hosted by the more extroverted of us. Meanwhile, we indoor kids will be live-blogging as the night goes on, so check back here if that's something you can handle. Thank you for reading and for voting and for being cherished members of the dumpster pile. 

Nervously,

by Courtney Vaughn

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Good morning and happy election day, Portland! Obviously, drop off that ballot if you haven't yet. If you need a replacement, the county elections office can help you. If you're not sure who to vote for, here's our handy dandy election guide, which even includes a cheat sheet for you to refer to when filling out your ballot. If you’re monitoring results, let us keep you company on our live election night blog, and if you need to commiserate with others, or share a joke and a drink to ease the stress, join us in person at Mississippi Studios tonight for our free election night party!

In Local News: 

• Speaking of the election, voter turnout so far in Multnomah County is a little low. The number of ballots returned by Monday hovered below 46 percent. In the last presidential election, more than 73 percent of Multnomah County ballots were returned the day before the election. Some have speculated that Portland’s new ranked choice voting system and the sheer number of City Council candidates is slowing voters down, or dissuading them from filling out their ballot. BUT, people were a lot less busy in 2020, and if RCV is the culprit, why is Clackamas County–which isn’t using ranked voting– also seeing just 50 percent turnout by Monday? Similarly, Washington County’s elections office reports only 47 percent of ballots were returned by Monday. Maybe voters procrastinated, or maybe they’re just waiting to drop off their ballots in broad daylight, when there’s less likelihood of a ballot box getting blown up by some nut job. 

Turnout in Multnomah County as of November 4, 1 days before the election.

Current: 46% of accepted ballots (50% with returned ballots)
2020: 73%
2004-2020 average: 65%
2004-2016 average: 63% pic.twitter.com/xVyPxKjebo

— John Horvick (@horvick) November 5, 2024

• In other local election news, a few buildings downtown have boarded up their windows in preparation for potential election night protests. Portland police have been hyping up the potential for election-related violence for months now, creating a bit of hysteria that’s got some major companies spooked. At least one online flier inviting anarchist protest has circulated, but it’s unrelated to any particular candidate or party and more directed at general disdain for the state of the country.

Both local and national law enforcement teams are on standby in Portland ahead of Election Day, but many businesses are taking matters into their own hands… boarding up their windows and doors. @fox12oregon pic.twitter.com/0kmbAWAIvb

— Mckenzie Richmond (@kenziestuvland) November 4, 2024

• Portland City Council seems primed to overturn the city’s agreement with Multnomah County on managing homelessness. As we reported a few weeks ago, City Commissioners Rene Gonzalez, Mingus Mapps and Dan Ryan have all signaled support for dissolving the intergovernmental agreement that lays out which functions each government agency handles, in an effort to collaborate and tag-team the region’s most critical issue. The three stooges allege Multnomah County hasn’t kept up its end of the bargain, and they’ve got professional shit stirrer and County Commissioner Sharon Meieran egging them on. This week, Portland City Council will vote on whether to end the agreement. Jessica Vega Pederson, chair of the county’s Board of Commissioners, has called out the plan to kill the agreement as short-sighted, misinformed, chickenshit, and harmful to unhoused Portlanders who need a bevy of resources and services.

Regional executive leaders are united supporting a collaborative approach to addressing homelessness, and pushing back on this political stunt that includes no plan.

“The three commissioners did not provide any alternative plan”https://t.co/KFIkThGrNo

— Jessica Vega Pederson (@jvegapederson) October 18, 2024

• Here’s a bright spot: Portland’s own Rose City Rollers took home a fifth world championship title over the weekend. The league’s all-star roller derby team, Wheels of Justice, overtook St. Louis’ Arch Rival Roller Derby in the final game of a three-day tournament at the Veterans Memorial Coliseum. Due to the international repercussions of the pandemic, this year’s Women’s Flat Track Derby Association Global Championships were the first since 2019. Keep your eyes peeled for more of our coverage. Rose City Rollers all-star team Wheels of Justice celebrates after a championship 
  win Sunday, Nov. 3.  courtney vaughn Gov. Tina Kotek (center) rallies the crowd Saturday, Nov. 2 at the 2024 Women's Flat
  Track Derby Association Global Championships. To the left, Kim "Rocket Mean" Stegeman (left) holds the championship Hydra trophy.   courtney vaughn

In National/World News:

• Attorneys for Elon Musk basically admitted that Musk’s election lottery scheme was more of a plot to boost the Republican party. When faced with charges of running an illegal election lottery, where he promised to pick a daily winner at random for a $1 million prize in an effort to get people registered to vote, attorneys said Musk never intended to use a lottery system to choose a winner. He instead planned to vet and select the right person to essentially be a cheerleader for Trump and the Republican party. Huh. Money can buy rocket ships and high-dollar attorneys, but it can’t buy intellect.

@lizzza

I’ll be with B

♬ original sound - Liza Koshy

• Quincy Jones, the musician and producer behind Michael Jackson’s Thriller who also worked with Frank Sinatra and was awarded 27 Grammys during his lifetime, died at 91. Jones died at home with family in Los Angeles. He was set to receive an honorary Academy Award later this month.

RIP to Quincy Jones. Do yourselves a solid and watch the documentary “Quincy” by his daughter, Rashida Jones. https://t.co/6nIE8VzPoz https://t.co/lOzgNCmFyZ

— GullahMuseumSC (@GullahSc) November 4, 2024

• Your black plastic spatula is slowly poisoning you. Recent reporting in The Atlantic reveals that many black plastic kitchen utensils are likely being made from recycled electronic waste, and leaching toxic chemicals into your food. The discovery was noted by a biochemist in 2018, who asserted that the high amount of flame retardants in black plastic products like spatulas signals the items were probably manufactured with recycled electronic parts used in computers and TVs. Because plastic is prone to leaching chemicals when it’s heated, researchers theorize it’s likely that black plastic cookware is releasing harmful compounds into cooking oil and hot foods. Might also be time to rethink all the plastic carryout containers used to store and reheat hot foods. ☣️????

• One last bit of election-related news, promise! ICYMI: Donald Trump pretended to blow a microphone during a campaign stop last week. Trump was pissed about the mic malfunctioning and his instinct was to mime a raunchy, suggestive movement with his hand and mouth. Keep this man away from children (and the White House). Hawk tuah!

@sbsnews_au

Donald Trump motions over an empty microphone stand after battling technical issues at a campaign rally.

♬ original sound - SBS News

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